'Falling' in love?

I have many friends who tell me that 'falling' in love is one of the most beautiful feelings ever... but after all that I have seen and gone through myself,I beg to differ!

I do agree that's it a 'magical' feeling for many people.But there are people out there who have been hit real hard too.I have witnessed many friends of mine who have had the misfortune of seeing their lovers walk out of their lives and getting married to other people.It's not always that every love story is a success.All I know is that love comes as a package deal....pain,sacrifice and understanding comes alongwith it.There is no love where these three are not involved.

When people say they are 'in love',I have noticed that they tend to act funny.They always try to put up a show in front of their lover....they try desperately to be someone they are not.You might be the laziest oaf in town but when you have a date at 7 o'clock,you're there at 6:45!You may be dressed like a tramp when you're with your friends...but when you're going to meet your girl/guy,you look as though you're off to a prom night!So,people are just not being themselves.Why should you put up this show in front of the other person?And finally,if this liaison does end up in marriage,you shed all those niceties and reveal your true self to the other person....say after a couple of months or so (c'mon,I don't think anyone can put up an act longer than that!).That's when the friction starts coming in....fights,arguments and quarrels arise....this is all just your subconscious mind's reaction when it has realised that this was not the person you had loved....or you thought you were in love with.

This is precisely the reason why I have always supported the concept of arranged marriages. Both familes are happy and you get a totally new individual in your life.....somebody you have never met before.Many people find that uncomfortable."Man,how do you expect me to share my room with a guy I don't even know?",asked one of my close buddies once.But I look at it from a totally different perspective.When you have been going around with a guy/girl for a long time,you already know what the person is....his/her likes,dislikes,mannerisms,habits, everything! And after marriage,the only new thing you do is,in very frank terms,share your bed(in some cases,even that is no new thing!).I feel there is no fun in such a marriage.When you start your life with a totally new person,each moment you spend with him/her is a new experience....each moment you learn something new about him/her.And once you are bound by marriage,there is no need for you to put up a show in front of the other person,like I mentioned before...coz you need not fear that he/she may lose his/her impression about you if you don't dress up like you're going for a party everytime you meet!You become a part of each other's lives in such a special way that before you know it,you are hopelessly in love with each other.That love is true love.....when you realise that you love the other person after knowing of his/her short-comings and faults and you still find him/her to be the most perfect individual ever.That is when your love for each other rises from being one of mere physical attraction to one of emotional bonding.And then you can proudly say that.....I AM IN LOVE!!!